Mom Crush Monday: Meet Kate

I’m Kate, one of the three Northern BC Moms! I grew up in Terrace, went to art school in Vancouver and then moved up to PG for work after school. I’ll always live in Northern BC. The pace, peace and life balance you find up here is unbeatable!

Would you like to participate in Mom Crush Monday? Learn More here. Check out other Northern Mamas too. We also love sharing any story or experience you might have. Send us a draft at hello [at] northernbcmoms [dot] ca and we will let you know how it can fit into our calendar!

Tell us about your family? I’m a single mom of two young boys. 3 years and 11 months. Their Dad and I work hard to co-parent and spend a lot of time as a family unit. They keep us both crazy busy, but it’ll only be worse when I go back to work. I’m taking some extra time before returning to work, but the day is looming. I am very lucky to have my grandmother and my in-laws in town to help out. I don’t know how people do this without family close by!!

What keeps you busy in life? The kids. I have no idea how I didn’t get more done before them. I’ve definitely learned what multitasking REALLY means, post kids. Also, my side business, Ames Design Studio (graphic design work), starting to finally blog (something I’d wanted to start since living in Vancouver), taking pictures of the kids, journaling/writing, painting and when my leave is over…work!

Describe yourself in one word? Late…but I’m getting better!

What do you do in you ‘free time’? I love to fill my schedule with play dates, riding bikes, swimming, skating, the gym and hikes with Hike it Baby, but sometimes I need to take a step back for some home time. I’m always surprised what I can accomplish when I have a “home” day. I used to be a bit of a hoarder, but now I’m addicted to purging and organizing. The simple life is just simpler. It’s like a lighter, less to think about life. I also love me some Netflix in the background, batch cooking, painting, writing, gardening, creating, cleaning kinda day.

What is your favourite colour? Denim fa-sho. You’ll usually find me in skinny jeans and buffalo plaid! <3

What is your favourite thing to make for dinner? Wine and cheese for me and noodles for the kiddos. But if we’re talking actual dinner, then sesame fried rice, spaghetti and meatballs, chilli, chips and guac, fish tacos, beef stew….ugh I can’t decide. I love to cook, but with just me eating (my picky eater only eats plain everything) it’s tough.
How did you become a mom? The usual way. JK. I’m a little sarcastic. But seriously now…my boyfriend at the time, and I had talked about starting a family, and then it happened. We we’re ecstatic!

What is your biggest challenge as a mom? Scheduling. As a single mom, finding any time to do anything: medical appointments (for myself and for the kids), work, ladies nights, shopping, cleaning etc. is tough when you’re handling it all solo. Thank god for grandparents that are willing to step up. Although it doesn’t always work out, and my communication skills could use some work, I’m truly blessed to have grandparents and a great grand parent in PG that are always willing to help out <3

What is the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you as a mom? At a birthday party recently, all the kids were jumping for joy on the trampoline. I went over to capture the moment. It was all fun and games until it turned to shit. Literally. As I checked bums of all the kids it seemed that it was just a fart, until I checked my own child. He was covered in shit, so was the tramp, and little did I know…all the other kids too. One of the kids even had a turd in the shopping basket she was jumping around with. Ugh gross. I’ve now named him the “party pooper” Lol.
What do you want to teach your children? How to live a peaceful, happy and love filled life. Confidence, respect , and worth ethic also.
What did you learn from your parents? That parents are just people doing their best.

 

What do you find yourself always saying? 1) Get your feet off of me. 2) Go to your room. 3) Take a bite. 4) Whyyyy? 5) #Momlife

Your biggest piece of advice for new moms? Find YOUR Village! ASAP. It’s seriously so, so important to have social interaction post kids. You can feel like a prisoner in your own home if you don’t get out and talk to some adults! Also, don’t go crazy shopping while pregnant. Most of that stuff you won’t need. Believe me, I spent so much money on buy and sell stuff that we didn’t even use. Specifically the crib and all the bottles (we ended up primarily breastfeeding and co-sleeping).

What keeps you going, day after day? The mom friends in my life. Take this opportunity to reach out and meet some mom friends. They’ll be your friends for life <3 Check out this post on how to make mom friends!

What is the most important thing in your home when raising littles? Snacks, bribes and time outs (for the toddler and for mom).
What is your favourite thing about having young kids? Hugs and kisses. Especially if unprompted. Morning and night time snuggles are the absolute best.
What’s something you said you’d never do as a mom, but did anyways? Co-sleep, bribe, yell, spank…I avoid the latter at all costs, but I can’t say it hasn’t happened in the form of a hand swat before.
How do you take care of you? What do you do for self-care? I try to keep a balanced schedule of play dates and home time. Either results in a crazy mom or crazy kids. I have a gym membership, do personal training, and also try to shower at least a couple times a week, I plan a Ladies Night Out and Wine Wednesday monthly through My Northern BC Village. Join our village today!

Do you have mom guilt? What’s trips you up the most? Yes, mostly in regards to my separation and judgement arising from that and/or from my discipline techniques.

What’s something you need right now? How could a stranger help you? A coffee. A babysitter. A housecleaner. A meal. A nap.

What is your favourite activity to do with your family? Get out for a hike, to the lake, hang with friends. Our favourite sites in PG are the SFGFRC, Lheidli Tenneh Memorial Park, The YMCAExploration Place, Playgrounds Cafe, Duchess Park, The Ancient Forest and Forests for the World.

Do you have a favourite event in Northern BC? We love all the music-fests and fall exhibitions in each community in the North. We’ve been blessed to attend most over the past several years.

Where do you spend most of your days with the kids? At the park, the YMCA, the SFGFRC, Exploration Place, the lake or visiting friends.

What do you think makes your community great? All the social and community services and events. All the things to see and do outdoors also. There’s so much to explore! Every holiday season has a big event in the park, a special area in town, we have great entertainment and restaurants too!
Does your community need something more for moms and kids? What is it? Postpartum support. Postpartum Passages is a new support group in the area, but before that there was nothing. And I’m sure there is not much in smaller communities around the North. But let us know, what you know and we’ll add it to the list!

What’s something we might not know about you? I struggle with deep seeded depression and anxiety.

What are your proudest accomplishments?
Going back to finish high school, college, my budding graphic design business, find me on Facebook:
Ames Design Studio, or online at www.amesdesignstudio.com , this collab blog, and…MY KIDS. It usually takes me longer than it should to get there, but for now, I’m really happy with where I’m at. They’re young and I’m taking my time.

Where will we find you in 5, 10, 15 years? In Prince George or maybe somewhere more rural in Northern BC, teaching after school art and working running a food truck!

Give someone you think deserves a shout out and why?

Charlene Marie. She’s been through so much and is standing strong <3

Thank you for reading and getting to know a little bit more about me. We’d love to get to know you too! Please leave us a note, message us on Facebook or Instagram or send us your story to hello [at] northernbcmoms [dot] ca.

Through our stories there is strength. There is strength in our union. -Kate

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